Allah, the Exalted, has created human beings in different relationships, among them, H e has made someone a father, then He has given someone the status of a mother, and He has made someone a son, and He has given someone the status of a daughter. Allah Ta’ala has determined their rights, it is not necessary to fulfill each of these rights, but Allah Almighty mentioned the right of parents in the Holy Qur’an immediately after His servitude and obedience. It is hoped that parents have the greatest right in relationships.
Order of good behavior from parents
Allah Ta’ala says:
” ِلَهُمَا ْ رَّبِّ الرْحَمْهُمَا For those who forgive.” q
Translation: “And your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and treat your parents with kindness, if they reach old age in your lifetime, whether one of them or both of them. (And if any of their words displease you) do not even say “I am” to them and do not rebuke them and do not speak to them politely, and bow down to them with kindness and humility. Stay and pray like this: O our Lord! So have mercy on them, as they have brought me up in my childhood (not only showing respect, but respecting them from the heart). He is most forgiving.”
In this verse, Allah Almighty first of all commanded His servitude and obedience: Do not serve anyone else except Me, after that He said: Be kind to your parents. Children should think that parents are not only the reason for my existence, but what I am today is due to their blessings, it is the parents who not only endure all kinds of pain, suffering and hardship for the sake of their children. Rather, sometimes they sacrifice their comfort, their happiness and desire for the sake of their children.
Mujahida of the mother
The mother endures the most toil, hardship and pain, Allah Almighty says:
“And We enjoined the human being on his mother’s behalf with kindness, his mother’s womb, and His mother’s womb.”
Translation: “This mother bore him in pain and gave birth to him in pain.”
The pain of the nine [9] months of pregnancy and beyond that the pain of childbirth, all this is borne by the mother. When a child is born, the father now endures hard work to bring him up, be it cold or heat, health or sickness, he endures the hardships of earning a living for the sake of his children and earns for them. Brings, spends on them, the mother brings up the child inside the house, feeds it, endures heat and cold to protect it from heat and cold, when the child is sick, the parents They become restless, their sleep becomes haram, they go round to doctors and treatment centers for their treatment. Therefore, parents sacrifice their comfort and comfort for the sake of their children, therefore, wherever Allah has ordered to be thankful, He has also ordered parents to be thankful, in Surah Luqman. Allah says:
“I am grateful to you and your parents to the destiny” e
“Give thanks to me and thank your parents, return to me.”
Someone asked Hazrat Ibn Umar (may God be pleased with him) that I carried my mother on my shoulder from Khorasan and brought her to Baitullah and in the same way carried her on my shoulder and performed Hajj, did I fulfill the right of my mother? ? Then Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “No, not at all, all this is not even equal to the one cycle of the mother that she placed in your womb.”
Allah Ta’ala has ordered good behavior towards parents: “Wabilwaladin-i-ihsaan” means to treat them with utmost humility and humility and honor and respect, do not be rude, do not be arrogant. He should obey, unless he commands disobedience to Allah, then his obedience is not permissible. In Surah Ankabut, Allah Almighty says:
“And We enjoined the human being with his parents with goodness, and if you seek to associate with me what you have no knowledge of, then obey them.”
“We have commanded man to be kind to his parents, and We have also told you that if they insist upon you that you associate with Me that which is the deity of If you don’t have any proof, don’t believe what they say.
*Someone asked Hazrat Hasan (Radi Allahu Anhu)* how to treat parents well. So he said: So spend your wealth on them, and obey what they command you, yes! If you command a sin, do not obey. t
Hazrat Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said that one of the good behaviors towards parents is that you should not even wash your clothes in front of them, lest the dust and dust of the clothes get on them.
A special order of good behavior in old age
Allah Ta’ala specifically mentions the education of parents and said that if one or both of them reach the level of education in your life, do not even say “Oof” to them and neither to them. To talk back. Hazrat Thanvi, may God bless him and grant him peace, has translated “Uf” to “Hun” in Bayan Al-Qur’an that if something he says is unpleasant, do not even say “Hun” in response to him. Allah, the Exalted, mentioned the state of old age especially because: In the youth of the parents, the children did not have the courage to say “yes” nor to rebuke. It happens, however, when the parents become weak in old age and are in need of their children, then it is more feared. Then, in old age, usually due to poor eyesight, irritability and annoyance arise in the mood, sometimes parents get angry with their children for trivial things and sometimes even for correct and truthful things, so now it is the time to test the children. That they show good behavior by tolerating it, or answer the matter with raised eyebrows, for this occasion Allah has decreed that answering and rebuking is a far-off thing. That is, don’t even say “Ugh” to them and don’t show even the slightest displeasure at what they say.
Hazrat Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said: If there was any level of impoliteness of parents even lower than “Uff”, then Allah Almighty would have forbidden it too. y
Hazrat Mujahid (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Even if your parents become old and you do not have to wash their face, do not say “Ouch” that they have been washing your face with feces for fifty-five years.
Parental literature
On the authority of Hazrat Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, she said: A person came to the service of the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace. He was accompanied by an old man. The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, asked: Who is this old man? This person replied: This is my father. He, peace be upon him, said:
“La Tamish-e-Imamah, walataqad qiblah, walat da’a basmah, walatstubb Allah.”
“Do not walk in front of them, do not sit before them in the assembly, do not call them by name, do not abuse them. ”
How to talk to parents when something unpleasant happens in old age? About this, Allah Ta’ala said: “Say to them a kind word”. Hazrat Saeed bin Musaib said: “Qul al-Abd al-Muznab for Sayyid al-Faz” 1) A wrong-doing and merciless slave, “Speak in the same way as one speaks to a hard-tempered and curmudgeonly master.” Don’t do it, this is a good word.
He further said: “And lower the wing of mercy for them” means to keep bowing before them with compassion. Someone asked Hazrat Urwa, may God bless him and grant him peace, that Allah has ordered in the Qur’an to bow before parents, what does this mean? So he said: If they say something about your displeasure, don’t look at them even with a slanted eye, because the displeasure of a man is first recognized by his eyes. 1! And he said, adopt such an attitude in front of them that because of you, there is no difference in fulfilling their heart’s desire, and do not be stingy in serving them whatever the parents like. (Bar al-Uddin, p. 40)
Hazrat Mufti Muhammad Shafi Sahib, may God bless him and grant him peace, has written in Maarif al-Qur’an that the order of serving and obeying parents is not limited to any age or age. In their pleasure is the pleasure of Allah and in their displeasure is the displeasure of Allah.
Allah’s pleasure and displeasure
Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “The pleasure of Allah is with the pleasure of the parents, and the consent of Allah is with the consent of the parents.” and Allah’s displeasure is in the displeasure of parents.”
The gates of heaven or hell
Hazrat Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, narrates that the Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:
“Whoever becomes submissive in his parentage becomes Allah’s father the losers of Jannah, and if the ear is single and single, and from Amsa Asiya Allah in his parentage, the father becomes the losers of Hellfire, and his ear is single and single.” He said: And the wrongdoer, and the wrongdoer, and the wrongdoer.”
That is, the person who woke up in the morning in the condition that he kept the promise of Allah regarding the payment of the rights of his parents, two doors of Paradise are open for him, and if one of the parents is alive and with him. If one behaves well, a door to heaven is open. And whoever disobeys Allah in paying the rights of his parents, does not behave according to the commands of his mother, then two doors of hell are open for him, and if one of the parents is alive. And if you misbehave with him, a door of hell is open. Someone asked: O Prophet of Allah! If the parents have wronged him? So he, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said three times: Even though the parents have done wrong.
Hazrat Rafa’ah bin Ayas (may Allah have mercy on him) says that when the mother of Ayas bin Muawiya (may Allah have mercy on him) died, he started crying, someone asked why are you crying? So he said: “Kan le baban muftitan ili jannah wa akhla ahadhama” meaning two doors of heaven were open for me, now one has been closed due to the death of my mother, that’s why I am crying. Somewhat fortunate are those whose parents are alive and treat them well, and two gates of Paradise are open to them.
Organizing Dua for parents
Where Allah Ta’ala has commanded good behavior towards parents, He has also taught them to pray for them. Thus, Allah says:
O my Lord! So have mercy on my parents as they have raised me with mercy and compassion in my childhood.
Make it a habit to pray for your parents after every prayer, two very simple supplications taught by Allah Almighty in the Holy Quran, one preceding and the other:
“Lord, forgive me and my parents and the believers on the Day of Reckoning”
O my Lord! On the day of reckoning, forgive me, my parents and all the believers.
Hazrat Sufyan bin Uyaina, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
“Whoever prays for the five salutations lacks the thanks of Allah, and who prays for the five prayers for the five prayers lacks the thanks of the worshipers.” 1&
“Whoever arranges five daily prayers, it is as if he has thanked Allah, and whoever prays for his parents after five prayers, it is as if he has thanked his parents.” ”
The status of parents is raised by the supplication of children. It is narrated from Hazrat Amr bin Maimon that when Hazrat Musa (peace be upon him) went to meet Allah, he saw a person under the shadow of the Throne and his condition was so good that Musa himself was jealous of this man, so Musa asked Allah about this man: O Allah! Who is this servant of yours? Allah Almighty said:
“Kaan la Yahsad al-Nas Ali ma ataham Allah min Fazlah, Wakan la yaq waldia, walaimshi balanimamah.”
(This person used to do three things:) 1:- He did not envy the things that I have blessed people with, 2:- He did not disobey his parents. 3:- He did not cheat. ”
Increase in sustenance
Good behavior towards parents is the cause of sustenance and increase in life. Hazrat Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, says:
“I love that Allah will help you in Umrah and in the provision of food.
“Whoever wants Allah to prolong his life and increase his sustenance, he should treat his parents well and be kind to his relatives.”
In a hadith, the Holy Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Barwa abaa kum tabarkam abnaukam.” 2)
“Be kind to your parents, your children will be kind to you.”
How to treat parents after death
Both the parents or one of them have died and they have not been treated well in life and if they have been neglected, how should it be remedied? Holy Prophet (PBUH) has also taught this. Hazrat Abu Sayyid (RA) says that we were sitting in the service of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) when a man came and said: Even after the death of my parents, is there anything through which I can treat them well? So you, peace be upon him, said:
“Yes, peace be upon them, forgiveness for them, and the implementation of their promises after them, the connection of mercy that does not reach us except for them, and respect for the Siddique.”
”Yes! To pray for mercy for them, to pray for forgiveness for them, to enforce their will after them and to perform the mercy that is only due to the relationship of parents, to honor their friends.
When Hazrat Abu Burda (RA) came to Medina, Hazrat Ibn Umar (RA) came to meet him and asked: Do you know why I have come to you? He said: No, then he said: I have heard from the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him:
“I love that my father was born in the grave, and that my brother was my father later.”
“Whoever wants to be kind to his father in his grave, then he should treat his friends well after him. There was friendship between my father, Umar, and your father. wanted me to do it. (That’s why I have come to meet you).
Finally, I request that whoever has both parents or one of them alive should consider them as a great blessing of Allah and obey them, treat them well, serve them as much as possible and fulfill their rights. He should try his best to do it and whose parents both or one of them have passed away, then the good behavior towards them now is to implement their will, if there is any debt they are responsible for, to pay it, Shariah shares. Divide the inheritance according to the law, get religious education and practice it, pray for them, ask Allah for mercy and forgiveness for them, give charity on their behalf, perform post-Hajj and Umrah on their behalf. dig a well somewhere or arrange drinking water for the people, buy religious books and endow them, build a mosque, build a seminary or cooperate in meeting the needs of the guests of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). Be kind to the close relatives and relatives of the parents, do good deeds for them, take care of them with their wealth, keeping in mind the plight of the oppressed Muslims in their region, country and around the world. Do it. May Allah bless all believers with the ability to treat their parents well, Amen, then Amen.
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